Will You Stand By Me…? “I wanted to tell you something… I’m pregnant...” These words can bring joy, fear or even terror to both the person receiving the news as well as the women facing a pregnancy. Whether it was a planned pregnancy or an unplanned pregnancy, there are feelings and concerns that will surface and change over time. What the woman sharing this story is trying to say is “will you stand by me during this time? I feel vulnerable and scared and not sure what the future holds.” Her hormones are fluctuating and each week brings new changes and challenges, emotions can run in many ways and be stuffed as well. How a close friend or parent responds to this statement can forever embed feelings- positive or negative.
It was a difficult decision but one that she felt was best for her and for her baby. Her mom was disappointed and went through the normal grieving and feelings that parents have when they find out their teenager is going to have a child. Together they worked with an adoption coordinator recommended by the National Adoption Hotline and found a family that was musical and childless that agreed to an open adoption, and in fact wanted one. What do you do if you are facing an unplanned pregnancy – either as a woman of any age or a parent of a pregnant daughter?
There are resources to help those facing one of the biggest decisions in their lives: that of an unborn child. The decision is one that needs to be thought through without regrets. No matter what is her plan, help her understand what it takes to raise a child. Is she able to give a child what they need through these stages? Has she had a role model to allow parenting to be successful? Is she willing to sacrifice her lifestyle for the needs of a child? Are you willing to give up your time and resources to help when needed without guilt or resentment? These are very important questions to think about before your emotions take over and a decision is made from only the heart and not the head. There needs to be a plan in place for either decision. To get more information and to request free booklet on decision making- call or text the National Adoption Hotline at 1-800-923-6602. Support and resources can help turn this difficult time into one of learning and getting closer to your pregnant daughter. There are resources and help – ask for it – you deserve it and she does too. Hilary and her mother became closer and have remained closer because of their communicating skills that they learned through the adoption and beyond.
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